Did you know that heart break can lead to heart disease?
Many die of heart attack with no plaque – and 50% who die of a heart attack have normal cholesterol.
Arterial flexibility is the key!
If your stress level increases it can create a tear leading to heart attack.
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A most contributing factor to heart disease in men is testosterone. But giving testosterone is not the answer, its that he is not making enough. Every man who has a heart attack has low testosterone.
High cortisol inhibits digestion, immune system and can cause high blood pressure.
Generally, a year and a half after a big emotional and unresolved situation such as divorce, child, death, job change, etc can lead to health issues if unresolved. Learning how to deal with stress is the key to heart health.
Key insight into how men and women can be heart health?
For men – Heart opens when you feel successful in helping others.
For women- When you feel successful in getting the love and support they need.
As a woman, if you are feeling unsupported, you have more adrenalin and cortisol and lesser estrogen and progesterone. Worst, the more women complain the worst it gets as it becomes a habit.
Key insight is don’t verbalize the negative but you can share the emotions. Just don’t share based on the expectation of change.
Complaining is a habit you want to break. We can even get addicted to complaining. The key is not to ignore the feelings, but share them with people who are not the target of feelings.
Women before menopause require 10 times more estrogen than men. That means women need to talk 10 times more than men to share their emotions! Women need to share their frustrations or disappointments to increase their estrogen.
How to share the right way:
“You know, the other day with this happened, I had a lot of feelings come up. It’s not a big deal but I just want you to know about it ….”
I was disappointed or frustrated … key is to add emotions as opposed to statements like “you don’t care”.
The key to any communication is to start with the phrase- this is not a big deal, just take it into consideration. Anything else, he will defend himself. Learn to minimize and speak emotions.
For men, when they get upset, this is not the time for them to talk to their spouse. The goal is lower estrogen and increasing testosterone.
She will feel like she is your mother or she will shut down.
When men talk about negative feelings their estrogen will go up!
Men need to do something that makes them feel successful. They need to forget about their problems to get their testosterone up.
When they do something they are good at their hormones go up, which is great! Men should not show emotions unless talking to a therapist who is going to analyze and support them.
For women, anytime they do things that they enjoy doing, feel safe doing, their cortisol and adrenalin will go down.
For men, anytime they do something difficult.
For men, retirement means 2 to 3 years to a heart attack, according to statistics. It’s very important for a man to do a job that they feel good about, overcome a challenge, feel needed!
A simple impactful change is to go on a “complaining fast”. Stop trying to elicit sympathy from others. “Poor me” is addictive, and releases the wrong hormones.
You want an attitude of sharing and letting go, instead of festering.
This makes a huge difference in lowering cortisol and keeping us heart healthy!
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- Heart break is linked to heart disease.
- How we regulate and respond to stress determines our heart health.
- Men and woman respond differently.
- Heart disease in men is owing to low testosterone.
- Heart disease in woman is due to high stress levels.
- Stress hormone.
– Inhibit Digestion
– Inhibit Immune System
– Elevate Blood pressure
How can you bring love into your life?
- Decreasing stress and cortisol levels.
- For men their hearts open when they are successful in helping others.
- On the other hand a woman’s heart opens when she is successful in getting the love support she needs.
Try not verbalize negative complaints to your loved ones. It raises dopamine which can be quite addictive.
The more the complaints the worse life becomes.
Men need high testosterone. Stress raises estrogen.
Any time a man has difficult challenge something he’s good at and enjoys doing he’s testosterone goes up.
Woman need balance in their estrogen and progesterone, stress increases testosterone.
A woman’s level is in balance when she does. something she’s enjoys loves and feels safe.
Learning to deal with our emotions and stress is the key to heart health.
Dr. John Gray, BIO
Dr. John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the #1 best selling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.
Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus: new relationship skills for our complex modern world. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.
John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness and romance.
His many books, blogs and free online workshops at MarsVenus.com provide practical insights to improve relationships at all stages of life and love. An advocate of health and optimal brain function, he also provides natural solutions for overcoming depression, anxiety and stress to support increased energy, libido, hormonal balance and better sleep.
He has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, and others. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, and People. He was also the subject of a three hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.
John Gray lives in Northern California, where for 34 years he happily shared his life with his beautiful wife, Bonnie, until her passing in 2018. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. He is an avid follower of his own health and relationship advice.
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